Recommended Resources for Affair Recovery:

Torn Asunder: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair, by Dr. Dave Carder and Duncan Jaenicke, ISBN-13: 978-0802471352
Torn Asunder Workbook: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair, by Dave M. Carder and Duncan Jaenicke, ISBN-13: 978-0802471369

Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed, by Debra Laaser, ISBN-13: 978-0310273943 

Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity, by Shirley P. Glass Ph.D. with Jean Coppock Staeheli,  ISBN-13: 978-0743225502